Life has been so busy! I am continuing with my gender transition. I’m working with some of the best professionals in my state, which rocks. 8 months now on female hormones, and I definitely have some cute breasts. My wife loves to tease me about how much larger my ass is (yet she says she loves my “girl butt”). I have filed paperwork to legally change my name, and have started talking to gender reassignment surgeons.
This week I’m going to talk to HR at my workplace to set plans in motion to transition on-the-job. One day I will simply start as a female. Yes, really. I’ve learned my employer has recently gone through this with someone else already, which is heartening. I’ve been living as a female for many months now everywhere in my life except at work. It’s time to come out there and go “full-time”.
I received a comment or email from a reader who wondered if becoming a transexual was a natural or common eventuality for a feminized husband in chastity. My short answer: no. It’s a great fantasy, and I’ve loved the stories I’ve read on-line over the years. But the reality of changing your gender for real in this society is very different. I’m sure there is the occasional “forced” situation, but I estimate that’s far less than 1% in real life. What you don’t realize is that there are plenty of transitioning people all around you. Some estimates as low as 1 in 200. Of course that includes the entire transgender umbrella, not just transexuals.
Some of the women you know might have been born male. That’s just reality. But please don’t ask them. Think about it — a genetic female will likely be very offended that you thought they were born male; quite a buzz-kill on a date. Like me, most transexuals want to transition and live the rest of their life as peacefully as possible. I just want to be in the world now as a woman. Eventually I will legally be female. And my wife and I will simply want to get on with the rest of our (lesbian) lives.
Some aspects of my situation were not really that unusual: a lifetime of private activities exploring my female side (crossdressing, reading TS stories, playing with makeup, wishing I was female); deciding to explore it more seriously after getting heterosexually married. One aspect of my situation is very unusual: my wife and I plan to stay together. The harsh reality is that most relationships cannot survive one spouse changing their gender — I think the partnership failure rate is over 90%. The suicide rate for transgender people is also very high (over 30%) — I’m fortunate to be a survivor, in fact.
But back to the question. It very well could be that a husband willing to be feminized and put into chastity does have some latent gender identity issues. But they may not be as serious as full-out transexuality. There is nothing wrong with loving to crossdress (I did it for decades), and for many it ends there. Other have a stronger pull away from their genetic gender, but life circumstances prevent them from acting on them (I was also there for decades). A full transition is not cheap — at least $30,000 start to finish. If you are interested in more details of transitioning, let me know. I don’t want to bore my readers!
Let’s revisit my dog dish (see prior post). I haven’t messed up once! But I will relay one story. My wife’s sister moved to our city about a year ago, and she comes over sometimes to chat or eat — or the three of us girls go shopping! One day she was over and she brought her two little dogs. I came home from work and saw my dog dish on the floor, and her dogs were eating out of them. I didn’t know if my wife had told her or not. And I didn’t dare ask. But it was clear that my wife noticed me noticing, and she really got off on the humiliation that it provided.
I’ll end on a chastity development. Today I’ll be removing my PA piercing. That’s a major deal for me. I’d wanted that ring in my cock for so very long, and it meant so much when my wife decided to have it installed. But gender surgeons apparently recommend letting that hole in my penis heal. I guess it makes sense, since they will be turning tiny inside-out when they surgically transform my male genitals into a vagina and labia. It’s amazing what they can do today (google for “SRS photos”).
But removing my PA ring signals the end of an era. No more chastity. Having my cock locked up was such a focus and big deal to me. And I’m feeling some loss about that. Mistress still dominates me, of course. But not with forced orgasm denial. She’s threatened a female chastity device, but those always come with a waist belt, and she has never been ok with those.
At some point I’m going to sell my whole high-security chastity setup: lock, JailBird cage, bio-safe, etc. If you want to be notified, drop me an email or blog comment. That will be a sad day too for me. On the other hand, it truly does feel awesome in so many ways, to finally become the woman that I’ve dreamed of being — and to have my Mistress/wife with me on the journey! Heaven!