Femcuck?

My wife asked me today if I have ever been jealous, not just with her, but at all with anyone. I had to stop and think. And even then, I wasn’t sure.

My trust in her is so high, and we have such a strong relationship built on honesty and communication, that it’s truly never come up for me. Fidelity (or even flirting) in my previous marriage wasn’t an issue either.

So I find myself with about 30 years of married life and no real opportunities for me to feel jealous. Is that weird?

I also realized that my wife has never expressed significant interest in someone other than me. So it’s probably fair to say that we’ve never “gone there”.

The astute reader of my blog will recall that I’ve shared many stories here that my wife has told me about black men that she’s had sex with. They are great stories, and I see myself as a cuckold candidate because those stories turn me on. But they have always only been stories that she uses to humiliate me.  After all, what kind of husband gets turned on hearing about his wife being unfaithful?

She took her questioning on the topic further, by asking flat out: “Do you think you’d feel jealous if I really did fuck another guy?” Again, I think it was weird that I had to think about my answer so much.

Eventually my answer was: “Well, if our relationship was threatened by it, then yes, I probably would feel jealous. But if it was just sex, well, probably not. It might also depend on whether or not I was present — but I’m not sure on that part.”

Many people have a strong connection between emotional intimacy and sexual intimacy. I’m like that in my primary relationship: if we’re emotionally struggling, I’m just not going to feel like having sex.

But my wife is not like that. She and a former husband, when they were married years ago, used to go to swingers parties. And yes, participate. But their relationship didn’t have the depth ours does. Swinging has not been a part of our time together.

My wife took it further.  “So, if you came home one day and I told you I invited our friend Donny over, and rode his magnificent cock to several orgasms while you were at work, you wouldn’t be jealous?” Since I know that Donny doesn’t threaten our relationship at all, my only honest answer was “Well, no, I don’t think it would.”

“Hmmm….” she said teasingly, as she walked off towards her office (and her computer).

So my question for you is:  now that I’m a female in a married lesbian relationship, could I still be considered a cuckold?

 

2 Comments

  1. Yes. You are still in a relationship. If two gay guys were to do the same thing either with another guy or a woman, would you consider it cuckold? I think no matter the sex in a relationship, cuckolding would be considered the same. Being a cuckold in general means you watch your partner enjoy another partner sexually. There are many cases where the partner is involved or and some where they are not involved. So in my opinion, yes. This would still be considered cuckold. She is still your significant other.

    • Thanks for the comment. I agree that it’s still a cuckold-like situation. It’s just that every definition I’ve found for the word “cuckold” is in a heterosexual context.

      A bit of googling just now turned up a term I hadn’t encountered before: cuckquean. That term simply swaps the genders. So it’s also hetero-centric.

      Perhaps in a decade or so, when being transgender is as typical as being gay/lesbian is today in western society, the term will naturally broaden to encompass non-heterosexual relationships. We don’t really need a new word (or two).


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